Excerpt from Chapter 8 – “The Process of Leaving and Recovery”

Published February 3, 2018

Living with abuse can cause serious damage psychologically, physically, socially, and spiritually. If you can gain the courage and strength to leave the abusive relationship, it can be the beginning of a process of healing and recovery. However, you may experience a range of common reactions, including disturbed sleep patterns; feelings of fear, anxiety, self-doubt, or vulnerability; anger ranging from irritability to rage; repeated thoughts about the abuse; feelings of sadness, loss, or grief; and feeling numb.

While everyone who experiences domestic abuse has a unique reaction to it, they also recover in different ways. How you recover depends on factors such as the types of abuse you experienced, the length of time you were abused, the severity of the abuse, your ability to recover, any past experiences of abuse and violence, strategies used to survive the abuse, and the level of support received from friends, family, church, and other groups. Spend time with your friends and family who love you and support you. You need their support. Talk with them about what happened, get help with babysitting, and picking the children up from school. Have them answer the phone, read text messages, or listen to voice mail when your abuser calls.