Excerpt from Chapter 9 – “Will It Happen Again?”

Published February 6, 2018

Many women are afraid that they will get involved in another abusive relationship in the future. I have been asked more than once for the “Recognizing an Abuser Checklist” (see page 57) to help women know what to look for in their future relationships and to identify a person who might be an abuser. You may not trust your own judgment and want reassurance that abuse will never happen to you again.

Unfortunately, no one can give you this guarantee. This is especially true if you eventually take your abuser back, which frequently happens, as it did in Hope’s case. In your future relationships, you will need to look for the warning signs and not excuse or dismiss them. Do not keep giving an abuser more chances. If treating you with equality and respect is that difficult for him, then let him go.