Inside you are a spirit, light, and potential. You see it in a child’s eyes when they experience hope or joy. You see it in a person who has worked hard to overcome obstacles they believed were insurmountable. And, you see it in yourself when you find the courage and strength to pursue your hopes and dreams as you become your true self. Choose the life you want and achieve it by focusing on larger goals, not small setbacks. You can do this. You have more strength than you know. You are only limited by what you tell yourself and what you believe you can do. This spirit, light, and potential are not just in some of us, but in all of us. They are in you. It is up to you to identify what you want, find the courage to change what is necessary to make your dreams come true, let your light shine, and be your fabulous, happy self. You are a wonderful work of art and deserve to be happy, feel loved, and treated with respect.
While change is not easy or comfortable, you don’t have to do this all alone. You are never truly alone even though you may feel you are. You are surrounded by good people who want to help if they know you need help and by the forces and spirit of the universe. You are a part of something much larger than yourself. Try to live your life in a conscious state. Be deliberate and responsible in the choices you make for yourself. Then, reach out to the universe by stating what you want and declaring your needs and intentions. Choose to reach out to and be surrounded by good, supportive, loving people who will encourage you. Choose to avoid being around those who do not make your life better. Listen to your instincts and learn to trust and believe in yourself. What you want matters. Only you are responsible for your life and decisions. When you sacrifice too many of your own preferences to satisfy someone else or to keep them happy, the resentment you feel will dim your light. Learn to make decisions based on what you know is right for you and try not to listen to the noise in your head telling you why you should or shouldn’t do something that you know is right for you. Seek counsel from good, wise people but make your own decisions. This is your life. You need to nurture your light by respecting what you want and working to make your dreams come true. When you do, you will see yourself bloom.
Why do some people achieve greatness, bloom, and flower, when others fade, underachieve, wither, and die? Why do people make the decisions they make? There are as many answers to these questions as there are people worldwide. What I have learned in my 30-plus years working with abused women is that each person has the right to choose how he or she lives life—including you. I encourage you to find your courage, listen to your instinctive true knowledge, and live the life you want.
You are not alone. Although you may feel alone, there are others living with abuse all around you. It is very difficult to talk about being abused for many reasons, including fear of your abuser finding out, shame that you are being treated this way, or fear that you will not be believed. As such, you don’t talk about being abused and neither do others. Yet, the statistics related to domestic violence and abuse are stunning. The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence tracks statistics on domestic violence.